Tuesday, September 23, 2014

"We can still be friends" after a breakup




"But we can still be friends? " is something we often hear when the break up happens...how the relationship ends...mostly in movies but quite often in real life. Does it really happen? Like ... if it's said ... can we really? Most people would consider the phrase "we can still be friends" practically the worst collection of words in that specific order.  Maybe its because most of us see it  as ... something that you say when breaking up and not the actual meaning of that phrase. when you hear these words...why does it make you feel uneasy? Feel worst than the realization that this relationship is about to be over in seconds. Why do people use it to express how they feel so often when most of the time its a lie? Is it really suppose to make the break-up easier because you will still be in each others lives? Does it make a difference depending on the relationship? Problems? How long you've been together?

Curious.

But what happens when they really mean those six words? You have spent so much time with this other person.. you should know them already ... right? Wouldn't you believe their words and want to be friends with them too because you know and the other person knows that you both want to still be in each others lives. You created a bond that was just too hard to throw away. Just as if they became your very best friend. You can't throw away that special friendship right? A relationship does usually start as a friendship first.

But it does get awkward sometimes if there are still feelings involved.

Curious.

What do you think? Is it possibly to be friends with your ex? Why or why not?

s h r i m pp a s t e

8 comments :

  1. Awww.. Did you just have a breakup?? So sorry!
    I honestly think that it just depends on the couple. I'm sure some stay friends after a break-up. I've never known anyone who has, though. I think it only works for an easy/mutual break-up.

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    1. Its okay. Thanks :) It seems extremely rare for two to actually stay friends if you haven't known anyone who has stayed friends =x I agree with the mutual think as well.

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  2. I just really don't think it's realistic to stay friends after a breakup, there's just to many feelings involved and it can be even hard to see the person.

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    1. That's true ... there is a lot of feelings that go into the relationship that it maybe difficult to let go of those feelings and become "just friends"

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  3. Ah i LOVED hearing your thoughts. Personally, I don't think it's possible to stay friends. I feel like you connected so much when you were together and it would be close to impossible to just pretend like it never happened. However, Gossip Girl proves me wrong considering they all basically dated and are still friends ;)
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    1. Thank you :) Lol thats True Gossip Girl seems to make it very "normal" to still be friends :P
      But if we have so much connection with the other ... it feels like a waste to throw it all away ... doesn't it? If they have become part of you ... someone you trust and shared EVERYTHING with?

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  4. I suppose it depends on each person (><) It's a difficult situation (u_u)

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    1. I agree ... It is a difficult :( and it also really depends on how the break up happened right? Like if it was mutual or if it was only one sided ... or even if there were problems involved ... ex.. cheating =x

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